Loving Leonard Cohen

I first heard Leonard Cohen growl in 1968.  My brother came home with The Songs of Leonard Cohen, and said, ‘You have to listen to this.’  My mother, sister and …

Dropping assumptions with Byron Katie

I first discovered Byron Katie while on retreat in Greece with Serenity Retreat . Or rather I should say that Byron Katie found me. I noticed a book sitting beside me …

Facing fears and challenging assumptions

Years ago, I went on a group trip to Austria. Everyone decided to go paragliding but I was locked in fear. ‘I can’t do it,’ I kept saying. ‘Oh, but …

Family constellations – healing inter-generational trauma

I’m watching the most extraordinary scene. My own family dynamic is being played out in front of me, with strangers representing my parents, my grandparents, even myself. I watch, with …

Testament (Or, Homage to Walt Whitman)

Right now words are not my friends.  My mind doodles in images only.  Yet still…words are our common currency and, if mine have fled, then needs must I burgle someone …

Choosing to end suffering with the Penninghame Process

I had sunk so low I was barely functioning. Staring blankly at the screen, distracting myself with television, numbing myself with food, sometimes with alcohol too. Pretty lost again. I’d …

Past lives, present solutions?

Have we lived before? Have we walked, talked, loved and lost in other times, in other places, in other bodies? Reincarnation is a beguiling philosophy and it is small wonder …

Goodbye good girl – on the benefits of being “bad”

I wrote this feature, based on a book, a long time back.  When I recently re-read it, I thought it was hopelessly dated.  Surely women don’t need to be told …

What’s your colour personality?

What challenges are you facing right now?  How can you meet them in the most productive manner?  The answers might come in a surprising way – through the use of …

Stopping – when mindfulness falls short

I was wandering through the bowels of my computer when I came across this feature I wrote many years back.  It struck a chord.  Much as I think mindfulness is …

What does your hall say about your personality?

Colour therapist Marie Louise Lacy, author of The Power of Colour to Heal the Environment (Rainbow Bridge) says that you can tell a lot about your personality – and those …

5 Ways to Get your Own Way

Nobody likes to admit it, but we all secretly want to get our own way. Whether we’re arguing with someone at work or choosing where to take the family holiday, …

Charisma – how to get it

Some people just ooze charisma. They’re the kind of people who are intrepid leaders and legendary lovers. Wherever they go, they’re the centre of attention. Hugely successful and highly memorable, …

Ho’oponopono – the power of forgiveness

Years ago I had a particularly difficult boss and, rather than waste my energy loathing her, I used to blast her with unconditional love. It worked too – after each …

The 7 keys to change resilience

What happens when you’re faced with a crisis? Do you crumple in a heap or do you really come into your own and thrive? Research has shown that when faced …

ACHILLES SYNDROME – do you feel a fraud?

Are you successful yet still feel like a failure? Do you worry that friends and colleagues think you are a fraud? Do you have that sinking feeling that, no matter …

Debate or shouting match – on not listening

Debate or shouting match? I watched some of the Syria debate in the House of Commons yesterday and it made me sick. Not the policies per se, but the way …

Positivity and the Law of Attraction

Positivity. Affirmations. The Law of Attraction. I got into all that back in the 80s and – guess what? – it worked. Seriously, it did. I took a course of …

Acceptance – loving the whole self

Total acceptance of yourself can be tough. While I was doing the Penninghame Process there was this moment when I felt like a total grubby disgusting piece of shit (as …

Obstacles & Lord Ganesh

Obstacles. Do we put them in our own way, I wonder? Lately, wherever I turn, I’ve been crashing up against Ganesh, the Hindu god of wisdom, knowledge and new beginnings …

How do I meditate?

How do I meditate? I don’t know how to ‘do’ meditation. How can I learn to meditate? Lately I’ve been hearing people ask these questions a lot. No big surprise …

Personality – who are we really?

What is this thing called personality?  Who are we really? Yes, yes, we’re energy, we’re stardust, we’re All One, we’re everything and nothing but still… while we’re not floating around …

We are one world so why are we at war?

What are we thinking? What are we thinking? I look around social media and my head whirls, and my heart aches. I feel a need to step back, to step …

The 4 Core Values – clear honest communication

Just over a month ago, I returned from the week-long Penninghame Process in Scotland. It was one heck of an extraordinary ride and I find it very hard to explain …

Zen – Discover your true self

Stress, anxiety and depression are an increasing part of life in Britain. According to the Mental Health Foundation around 50 percent of adults in the UK feel stressed every day …

Agony Answers: I can’t say no

Q: I can’t seem to say no to people and often make myself stressed because I have too much going on. I feel as if my generosity isn’t reciprocated by …

Abstainer or Moderator? The One Square of Chocolate a Day Test

According to a book I read lately for research, we all tend to fall into one of two camps – we’re abstainers or moderators. Gretchen Rubin, author of Better Than Before: …

The 36 questions you need to ask to fall in love

According to a report in the New York Times, you can fall in love with absolutely anyone.  All you have to do is ask the person 36 specific questions.  Why these?  Apparently it’s all …

Mindfulness – the key to less stressful living?

Could mindfulness provide the key to less stressful living?  The simple form of meditation, based on Buddhist principles, is fast gaining acceptance as a powerful way of bringing peace to …

It’s just a ride…a long list of things I have learned (to date)

It’s been one heck of a ride.  One crazy, mixed up, muddled up time, it really has.  And I got to thinking…what have I learned?  When I look back over the last …

Brene Brown on the Power of Vulnerability

Have you heard that TED talk by Brené Brown?  The one entitled The power of vulnerability? I’d never heard of her and I don’t usually like watching clips of speakers …

EMDR – farewell to phobias?

EMDR is an exciting technique which can help banish fears and phobias. Pioneered in the US it is now spreading around the world and is an invaluable new tool which offers freedom from anything from mild anxiety to full-blown life-restricting phobias.